Angela: My [college] roommate is pretty casual about "hooking up" with her male friends, and her reputation is growing around our tiny campus. We're not the best of friends, but I feel like I should say something. What do you think? —Rebecca
Look at it this way, Rebecca. If the chatter was about you, wouldn’t you want to know? I think you owe it to your roommate to inform her about the damage being done to her reputation. It’s a tricky situation, telling someone their behavior is trampy; if your delivery is not tactful, you could find yourself on the receiving end of some indignation. She’ll either clean up her act or determine she doesn’t care what people think. Either way, your conscience will be clear.
Angela, I can't stop stalking my ex-boyfriend on Facebook. We broke up six months ago, and I'm not over him. Help me to move on. —Desperate
Desperate: Block him. On any and every social media outlet you could possible use to stalk him. You must block him. Until you stop obsessing, you will never purge the ex from your system. Don’t think you are the only person that’s can’t control impulses when it comes to love. I’ve actually had to delete phone numbers of former flames in an effort to keep myself from calling or texting. A girl’s gotta do what a girl has to do—especially if she doesn’t want to be perceived as the crazy chick.
Eight weeks. It’s going to take eight weeks of zero contact, stalking, snooping, or asking around about him for you to completely get over this. Can you do it? If not, you’ll spend another six months of the same neurotic behavior pouring through his Facebook photos looking for signs of another girl. Lock it down for eight weeks, and get rid of the crazy-girl status. You owe it to your sanity.
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About Angela Lutin:
Angela Lutin is Essentially Angela. Blogger, Advice Columnist and Dating Guru for the social media age—decoding modern love one tweet, text, and like at a time. Angela’s dating advice column, "The Naked Truth," appears exclusively each week on bocamag.com and in each issue of Boca Ratonmagazine. Her work appears regularly on the Huffington Post. She can been seen on MTV’s "Made" and Bravo’s hit show, "Millionaire Matchmaker." Crafting personal dating makeovers for her clients, Angela also maintains a private practice, which turns the romantically challenged into the relationship-inclined. Follow Angela on Facebook or Twitter.