Not too long too in a cheesy keepsake shop, we saw a magnet that said, “If mamma’s not happy, nobody is happy.” And something about the tchotchke just struck a chord. Although Mother’s Day is an all American holiday that was initiated by Anna Jarvis  had very poignant origins before it became as commercial as it is over the years. Hallmark dubs it as the third most popular card holiday and consumer spending spiked at a whopping $18 billion and up last year for the holiday. It also has roots in Greek and Roman antiquity.

We’ve got a different take on this though. Although it’s nice to have a day set aside to do this, why not celebrate regular rituals with your mother throughout the year? Why? Because she’s one woman whose seen you at your best and worst. So as much as we love retail therapy, we also believe in the small things that add up to being big memories. Sometimes you have to make things happen instead of letting them take their course. Here are four ideas to shakeup the routine with boss lady (not just on Mother’s Day):

1. More spa days: Sounds like a cliché, but the relaxation makes up for it. Nothing like a girl’s day out to relax, talk your heart out and put a new lease on your relationship. Boca has quite a few serene spots: Maui, Seagate, Bliss and more.

2. Get a makeover: Every mom has an inner diva, keep that fun diva in business, get a makeover together. A crazy hairdo, a wardrobe refresher or something crazier. Mix it up. Go to independent boutiques like Alene Too or an open market like Downtown Open Market to shop unique finds together. Get a similar special pair of shoes.

3. Wine tasting: Try a wine festival, Boca Bacchanal just went by or places like The Rustic Cellar or The Naked Grape (that’s in Wilton Manors).

4. Plan a trip or take class: With the Groupons and Living Socials of the world, this has become easier than ever. Find a unique destination and do this at least once a year. A short trip that will take her mind off the daily drudgery. Learn something new together; who knows it might be a potential business idea—an Etsy store perhaps?

Your mom definitely deserves more than being a calendar reminder or phone call you have to make. Break a pattern here. It will make the gift you’re buying her this Mother’s Day even more special.

About Jo:

Jyoti “Jo” Peswani is a fashion maven. As a Chanel-obsessed, published fashion and lifestyle journalist, she definitely has a nose for everyday style. She's an award-winning copy and strategy girl and runs her own marketing and writing consultancy, The Idea Is {In}. She’s a strong advocate of living (and dressing) creatively and takes great pleasure in denying the existence of “the box.”